One of the most anxious moments in our life has to be that daunting first date experience. The days leading up to a first date can be nerve-racking and stressful for many people. But there is good news. Everybody experiences those first date jitters. Nobody is immune to it. Also, it’s a feeling that never really goes away. No matter how experienced you are in the dating scene, you will always get a few butterflies at the thought of meeting someone new, and having to win them over.
When it comes to dating, there is no “how-to” manual. Everybody is different. For example, this eHarmony user wrote on this eHarmony review that when it comes to meeting people on the app, what works for some might not work for others. This just goes to show you that not everybody is the same. But fear no more, because we are going to help you get over that first date anxiety, or at the very least, learn to live with it. So here are 4 tips to get over your first date anxiety.
1. Be Self Aware
Being self-aware means that you are conscious of the situation you are in. After all, you did get a date with the person, so in all likelihood they already like you or they are interested in you. Also, you should know that the chances are the other person is just as nervous as your. And so, you have no reason to be anxious because the other person is going through the same thing as you.
2. Stop overthinking
A lot of your problems arise from the fact that you are overthinking the issue. You might be overthinking whether or no your date will like the restaurant you choose or the perfume you wear, or worse, you might be overthinking whether or not they even like you! Take a step back and try not to overthink all the minor details.
3. Go Somewhere Familiar
When choosing the venue for your first date, its always best to choose somewhere you know the ins and outs from. You don’t want to experiment with somewhere unfamiliar that might throw you off your game with some bad service or poor tasting food. Go somewhere you know and are familiar with so that you know what to expect, and know that you’ll be in good hands. Also, this help in putting you in an environment where you will feel relaxed and comfortable in, thus reducing your sense of anxiety.
4. Have Fun
This is not a “try to have fun”, but actually have fun! Far too often we confuse dates for job interviews when that’s not the case. Meeting someone new and starting relationship is meant to be fun and exciting. Don’t let those few measly butterflies get in the way of ruining all the fun for you. Let loose and enjoy yourself and keep in mind that if they weren’t interested, there wouldn’t have been a first date in the first place!
