While sex can be something that ends up lasting a notable amount of time and continuing on through the night, even the most passionate relationships eventually segue into something a bit more manageable. This is to be expected, it’s the nature of reality. Emotions are transitory and act as a sort of metaphysical lubricant from position A to position B.
That said, sexuality tends to be a strong component of healthy relationships; it may even be a daily part of married life for many couples for many years. It’s just not likely to be the all-night affair it was at the start. Even so, rest can be difficult in such circumstances, though it is absolutely fundamental to the relationship.
A lack of sleep makes a person a bit irritable, and it acts on the mind sort of like alcohol does. After around eighteen hours without sleep, your mental acuity is about what it is after one or two drinks, depending on your level of exhaustion. If you’re missing sleep every night because you’re sharing your bed with someone, that’s not good.
How is this overcome? Well, there are a few things to consider; and in the best circumstances, they won’t involve being rid of physical intimacy. For psychological and physical health, intimacy with your wife or husband is a good thing. The Language Of Desire guidebook gives you education regarding the psychology of men’s most intimate desires. Rather, these tips will help you to “have your cake and eat it, too”, as the saying goes.
1. Aligned Life Schedules
This tip is easier to conceive than achieve, and it may not be tangible immediately. Life schedules don’t follow ideal desires. Sometimes one of you has to work nights and doesn’t come to bed till four in the morning.
Meanwhile, the other wakes up at seven. If that’s the situation, the ardent desire of both of you should be to work past, rather than normalize, that situation. It’s going to put a rift between you eventually. What makes the most sense is both of you getting as much on “the same page” as possible. You want fatigue and energy cycles aligned.
2. The Right Sort Of Mattress
If your schedules are aligned and you’re having trouble sleeping, you might want to take a more impacting step. For example, the problem you may be having is that your present mattress is not a mattress for sex. Mattresses designed for physical intimacy have been engineered to help you be intimate comfortably, and get rest after the fact.
If that doesn’t work, you might get a sleep number bed, a memory form mattress, or barring that, have one bed for intimacy and another for sleep. Still, that last alternative is a bit inconvenient.
3. Figuring Out What The Issues Are And Addressing Them
If schedules are aligned and mattresses are designed for comfortable intimacy, but you’re still having trouble sleeping together, figure out what the problem is, and whether it can be addressed. Sometimes one of you just has night terrors and associated dreams throw limbs into one another in the night. The one sleeps fine, the other is continuously awakened.
What could be done to assuage that discomfort? Perhaps dream issues are answered with daily exercise that forces the body into a deeper sleep. Maybe that individual needs a massage, or maybe putting music on in the background could help.
Perhaps you get a bedside humidifier. If aligned schedules and sex-positive mattresses don’t fix the issue, figure out what underlying problems are still there, and address them.
Solid Rest And A Solid Relationship
Unique issues need to be figured out and addressed, you want to find the right sort of mattress, and if you can align life schedules, you should. These tactics should help you share your bed with your partner more comfortably.
